He has details and he did not say anything until he got home for fear. My Father got raped in a NH. He got home yesterday. He was there for 3 weeks sent there by the hospital after a sepsis. He has Parkinson's. Anyway, the guy who repeatedly raped him told him he was going to kill him if he told anyone. So Dad was afraid to tell anyone till he got home. He said he picked him because he could not scream. Because when you have Parkinson's you can only whisper. So he told in great detail what happened to him. And we are sure he is telling us the truth. But he is so weak that we don't want to tell the police. There is no evidence because Dad said "he" always cleaned me up afterwards.
I know this would not shock anyone who has heard about senior abuse in nursing homes. But this is my father and I am not sure how to proceed. I don't think they will believe him because sometimes he says things that are Parkinson's related dementia.
Do get him to a doctor to have his bottom checked, and ask them to treat it as a possible rape. At the very least, if he has an injury, that should be treated.
What a horrible situation for both of you! God bless you and your father.
Go see the police, whoever handles sex crimes, explain the situation, ask their advice. You don't have to involve your father. This man must be stopped. Even if they cant prosecute; they will investigate the man, and how this could happen in a nursing home. They can put cameras, and catch him in the act.
your original post says dad was afraid to say anything until he got home. Then you say that he doesn't know that you know. Who did he tell when he got home?
I don't want to negate what your dad said and I'm very sure this is very true for him but is there a chance that the Parkinson's related dementia isn't at work here? Again, I'm definitely not saying that this didn't happen but if your dad has dementia that has to be taken into consideration.
My dad had dementia related to liver failure and he was in a NH and he told me all kinds of things that were going on in which he was being victimized. These stories were very detailed and very, very real to my dad. I took them very seriously because my dad was very afraid. His fear was very real and to him, these things were happening. That was his truth.
I don't see how you can resolve this situation without involving the police. IF this really happened the NH is going to close ranks and have you running around in circles with no resolution. You must report this to the police.