Severe Alzheimer patient forgets how to push healthy soft stools out. Needs to be fingered out every 3-4 days. Tried all stuff to promote diarrhea - nothing. Not pleasant task. Guy is still healthy, likes to walk, eats well - lots veggies/fruit.
Any other suggestions to cope?
the guy is 80 yrs old and AD since 2002. so we are getting to the end, but it may be a long time coming as he is so fit. still walks, eats and sleeps well. mostly cheerful but can get easily tired when he will get violent a bit. does not really hit me - just threatens to do so! I follow the advice, leave him alone for a while to stew.Then I manage to get him in bed, he falls asleep immediately and wakes up angelic!
Was incontinent since last summer. Now, if timing is right, can pee in toilet but the poop is stuck. I can tell because a wipe is dirty. He has not wiped his own bottom for years! Pull up diapers are wonderful, hi-tech material means it can hold several pees too without getting sore cos of one way pass through layer.
He is not constipated. As there is indication of poop from a wipe - and even if I sit him on toilet for hours with a magazine to flip , he does not push out! the indication is there every 3-4 days. When we do a finger job, there are huge amts to pull out. He does not help much, but standing he does sort of bend a bit, which makes it easier to finger out. S o not constipated and this is why I am trying to give him diarrhea!
He eats oats daily, Plenty of green vegetables and fruit. Prunes and prune juice, fresh oranges, yoghurt, blueberries. You name it, he eats it. He has a very very balanced diet.
I could give him a soapy enema every now and then instead of the fingering. it will be real messy and not sure if he will submit to this as it is better done lying down. His comprehension is very slow , if at all, so he mostly does not co-operate.
coping with him for11 long years and I have had it. I wish he would die soon. Yes it is depressing, but I cope and have to get on with it. When he no longer recognizes me and is bed bound - I will get him into a home. By then it should be the end.
I do not think there is any suggestion I have not tried. there is no blockage - he just does not push any more.
Gwendo
For Gwendo, putting a "Guards" inside the diaper pants or the nighttime open type greatly extends the period of absorbency.
For those who are not familiar they are like a female sanitary pad but bigger and shaped to accommodate the male anatomy. They can be worn by any male who is capable in ordinary underwear. This also helps keep the cost down and protects dignity when using a public rest room.
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