I was offered a room to rent in the home of an older male, who I knew 10 years ago from business. I made it clear this was a temporary arrangement while I was planning to move out of state. When I arrived at his home, he answered the door in his walker. The house is filthy. I broke out in a rash from bedsheets and he yelled at me for stripping the bed to do a load of laundry late at Night, that was not "a full load" I can feel steel bed springs poking me, he said the bed is 30 years old. He started eating all my food, all my groceries, and when I caught him in the kitchen eating my birthday cake, he said "so f'n what, I ate it, go fn buy yourself another one!" and walked away. He wears the same clothes for over a week, smells horrid , eats food standing at kitchen counter and drools. He does not allow doors or windows open, turns ac and heat off at night. He said he does not allow ice cubes or for me to use the ice maker in the freezer! He said he wants me to apply to the state to be his caretaker. I said NO WAY, he was dishonest about having me as a roommate.I stay in my room and avoid him whenever possible. I have caught him lurking in the hallway in the dark peeking in my bedroom, he demands I get up and cook him something or drive him to the store. He gets verbally abusive when confronted, so I can no longer say anything he foams at the mouth, screams and swears so loud the neighbors hear it. The lady next door told me he is evil, and that I'd be better off on my own and get out. The last woman who lived here packed up and left one day while he was not home. He called me every vulgar name the c word, the b word. Now, he poops all over the bathroom and goes back to bed like nothing happened. I have stepped in it half asleep, or had to clean it up in the am. Lately, all he does is sleep 75% of the day or watch tv or porn in the living room. He cant remember if he took his pills, is diabetic and eats a package of cookies a day. I cannot take this verbal abuse and filth...am going to domestic abuse counseling right now until I can get out. I am having panic attacks and have been at the Hospital several times. What else legally can I do? His family want nothing to do with him.
Move out first and figure out what to do after you are safely out.
How soon will you be moving out of state? Where can you stay until then? YWCA? Low-cost motel? Almost anything would be better than this abuse.
I feel sorry for the old guy. I really do. He is probably mentally ill and didn't ask for his situation. But he is not a fit landlord and he is not your responsibility.
Get out. Can the domestic abuse counselors suggest some place for you to go?
Report the situation to Adult Protective Services. But first, Get Out.
I am in process of quietly getting things ready to move. I already have my travel expenses covered. Waiting to hear on apt approval. I cant go to a shelter, I have 2 pets. At this point, living in my car would be better than this madness.
Yes, going to report everything to the authorities after I leave, so he can never hurt another person ever again....he needs to be locked up somewhere and psych evaluated.
Whatever you do, try not to blame him. Sounds like he has dementia/Alzheimer's and he cannot control what he is doing.
Contact a rescue group and ask if there's anyplace your pets can reside for a few weeks until you're re-settled. At least that way you could go to a shelter. It's better than living in a hell hole.
Yes, its a good idea to notify social services because he needs help, but only after you are out of harms way.
Are you asking if you can seek damages from him? Considering he is likely not competent, I don't know if it's a can of worms I would want to open. I guess it would depend on the amount of damages.
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