This is not an open invitation to agree or disagree. I'm just wondering if others still face ongoing criticism of your choices no matter the side you are on.
A person with Parkinson’s (and elderly in general) can be very high risk for pneumonia because their ability to produce a deep cough can be limited. Because of this I continue to be protective of my husband.
Even before COVID we did not go to church when flu risk was high, only took him into stores during the slow hours and used Walmart grocery pickup when they were the only ones offering it. Now I am extremely thankful to have our church by streaming video and have even more pickup or delivery shopping options.
Now that most people have relaxed their personal guard against COVID I have received “encouragement” that I should do the same. I CHOOSE to wear a mask in public groups (even outside), I avoid groups unless necessary, I try to keep my distance when possible, I ask repairmen and caregivers to wear a mask when entering my home, etc.
Is it inconvenient? YES. However, I keep trying to explain that I will be the one to pay the consequences if either one of us get even just a cold. Being a caregiver is hard enough without having a stuffy head, etc. Others can go to bed and sleep it off when they feel bad but not a 24/7 caregiver. He is very little help for me or himself when I have a down day. Should we both get sick at the same time I honestly don’t know how we would fare. Yes, others would offer to help but I’m sure there would be no one able to step in and replace me. The VA gives me 14 hours of caregiver assistance a week. If used at one time, that is not even one 24 hour period.
The experiences we have had with previous hospitalizations tells me that we definitely don’t want to have another. If it is the caregiver who is hospitalized, there is the added stress not knowing who or how their loved one is being cared for back at home.
Yes, I do have faith in God that he is in control and whatever happens He will carry me through. However, I don’t feel it gives me the freedom to throw caution to the wind . For me, following basic COVID protocol is a lot easier to minimize the risks.
I see people with masks still in many locations. I would never say a word to them about it. You don't know what their general health is, or if they're caring for a LO who is high risk. In fact, it's none of our business.
You do what feels right for you. You owe no one an explanation for your masking up. I see many people still masking, and after having the Omicron variant a month ago and STILL being sick---I wish whomever had it, HAD masked up. I nearly died. DH caught it in the airport, I imagine. He said about half the people there wore masks.
It's become so common. Why is it even an issue anymore?
And yes, as DH's main CG, when we were both super sick, I was completely unable to care for him. I don't even know if he ate for 2 weeks. Our daughters ordered food delivery for us and cared for us 'remotely'.
I consider myself very fortunate to have been born in America, and even more fortunate that I haven't had to experience or endure some of the horrors of people in other countries. The decisions made by my grandparents back in the early 1900s are responsible for the security I can experience today.
I won't ever forget the lines of Afghanis waiting to get on flights to evacuate them to America. Nor will I forget the agony of what the Ukrainians have experienced, especially those who had to sequester and hide in basements, w/o water or food, while Russian troops destroy their country.
I could add more situations, including some of the less stable South American and African nations, or those countries with repressive regimes and limited freedom.
What could possibly be as inconvenient as those mandatory sacrifices of freedom as those imposed by unstable rulers?
KPWCSC, I'm not criticizing you, just trying to offer a different perspective. We Americans sometimes don't realize how fortunate we are. And I do think, and thank you for the precautions you're taking. I too still mask and avoid crowds.
I wear a mask in my own time if I'm going anywhere crowded or poorly ventilated.
We're still wearing them at work. Some clients are asking us to take them off to hear us better, but it's easy enough to say no; and it's still the case that more clients (very sweetly) ask if we want them to put one on, bless 'em (there's no need, we wear them for clients' benefit more than our own).
I think we should all do exactly as we please as regards all this, and take the risks we choose and pay the consequences thereof. I give this no thought whatsoever anymore. Not worth my time or my trouble. Just got my 4th shot. I mask up where I please, and I don't give a single thought to others and their choices in this matter. Living my life to the fullest, sometimes masked (hey, they hide wrinkles) and when not in public, not.
It has become too divisive to bring up. I make my own choices and I live by them/with them. I am good with others making the choice they feel best for themselves.
Frankly, at this point, with all the information out there, I think our choices are somewhat Darwinian, and I can almost enjoy that. But then I am of a somewhat perverse nature and think us overpopulated anyway.
I do get tired of people criticizing others who choose to wear masks - I would probably be one of them and keeping the kids outside on the enclosed porch if my mother still lived.
I am really tired of hearing all the anti-vax bs when there are now literally mountains of data showing the good of the vaccines outweighs the side effects for most people and the lack of respect (and mandates) trying to force vaccination.
I absolutely hate watching my niece-in law's 11 year old niece being short of breath and lacking normal stamina at the splash pad this week because her lungs were damaged by covid.
I dislike the damage to my nephew's marriage because he decided to vaccinate his son without telling the mother who vehemently opposes vaccination. Everone in our family who got omicron and was vaccinated had a mild case and recovered quickly. Two of the three individuals who were not vaccinated ended up hospitalized and the little girl has continuing problems. Its difficult not to feel her custodial aunt let her down.
I am tired of people thinking they have the right to comment to strangers about their choices. Leave people alone to live and die by their choices. We know enough now (if we want to) to choose our risk level; let the people who are extra cautious alone!
His narcissistic sibling "Karen" doesn't care how anyone feels or believes. She just pops up like a broken jack-in-the-box with her incessant drama bringing whose ever children over, regardless of what her mother's Dr. says or what we tell her.
So, yes, the COVID debate... it's still out there.
I have to get MIL her booster.
I still wear a mask when entering a business establishment, don't want to take any chances at my age.
There are folks who have found wearing a mask during seasonal allergies has been very helpful to them. Seen a few wearing masks while mowing the lawn.
I choose to wear my mask when I go into stores, big and small. But I am also comfortable going for a meal inside a restaurant, where of course I have to take my mask off, but I wear it to the table and until I have ordered my food.
Oh I guess I should have said the mask mandate was dropped here a couple months ago.
Having said all that I know more people within my social/work/networking/family groups who have had Covid since January of this year than had it before. Even those who are full vaccinated are getting quite ill, but not requiring medical intervention.
I choose to be fully vaxxed and have had all three jabs offered where I live.
I hugged a friend yesterday. Boy did that feel good. I live alone, so the lack of physical contact has taken its toll on me.
My father was 92 when COVID took off. He has diabetes and chronic lymphocytic leukemia. Luckily neither really bothers him that much. But he is very old and immune-compromised.
You bet I protected him. Like a Tasmanian Devil on a bad hair day. No one got in his house without a mask. I had a box of N95s by the front door so no one had an excuse. No one came into his house without me being there to make sure they were wearing a mask and staying six feet away from him. This meant that anytime anyone was coming to the house I had to drive half an hour to get there. Everyone but workmen who were not going to be around him had to wash their hands for two renditions of Happy Birthday first thing through the door.
Anyone not wearing a mask was handed a mask. Anyone who wasn't wearing the mask over their nose and mouth were told to adjust it. I required all caregivers to show me their vaccination card the first time they came to work. I wore a mask every time I went out and got all my vaccinations as did my father.
I did this for two damn years.
I still wear my mask in public. I like it because it protects against airborne sickness in general and I don't have to put on makeup. I have heard about people being pestered about continuing to wear a mask. I live in a blue town in a pretty blue state. No one has ever said anything to me about my wearing a mask. And if anyone ever had the nerve to do so, they would be looking for their head for a week.
So what do you think happened? Omicron came along. His caregiver -- who showed me her vaccination card -- called in sick. I broke my ever-loving neck to get a home testing kit to test her. The test was negative. Then she called in sick two weeks later. This time I just took him right down to the city testing center and he came up positive. We got the results on a Friday. He got the Omicron monoclonal antibody treatment on Monday. He's fine as far as Omicron COVID goes.
That's my history. Now here's my opinion. NO ONE HAS ANY RIGHT AT ALL TO TELL YOU WHAT TO PUT OR NOT PUT ON YOUR FACE. OR HOW YOU CARE FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR HUSBAND. It is rude. It is childish. It is wrong.
You are the one in charge. IMHO, you do whatever it is you think you should do to protect the both of you. As for relaxing protocols, the medical center I take my dad to still requires masking. That's good enough for me. Also, we don't know if a new mutation may be around the corner.
Anyone who is giving you lip about changing what you're doing because COVID is "gone" is invited by me to take an express elevator to the Ninth Circle.
Now that I've had my rant, I wish both of you the very best.
You have every right to demand someone wear one in your house.
You have a right to wear one in public without having to explain why.
"A storm descends on a small town, and the downpour soon turns into a flood. As the waters rise, the local preacher kneels in prayer on the church porch, surrounded by water. By and by, one of the townsfolk comes up the street in a canoe.
"Better get in, Preacher. The waters are rising fast."
"No," says the preacher. "I have faith in the Lord. He will save me."
Still the waters rise. Now the preacher is up on the balcony, wringing his hands in supplication, when another guy zips up in a motorboat.
"Come on, Preacher. We need to get you out of here. The levee's gonna break any minute."
Once again, the preacher is unmoved. "I shall remain. The Lord will see me through."
After a while the levee breaks, and the flood rushes over the church until only the steeple remains above water. The preacher is up there, clinging to the cross, when a helicopter descends out of the clouds, and a state trooper calls down to him through a megaphone.
"Grab the ladder, Preacher. This is your last chance."
Once again, the preacher insists the Lord will deliver him.
And, predictably, he drowns.
A pious man, the preacher goes to heaven. After a while he gets an interview with God, and he asks the Almighty, "Lord, I had unwavering faith in you. Why didn't you deliver me from that flood?"
God shakes his head. "What did you want from me? I sent you two boats and a helicopter."
The rules here following a positive home test are one week’s isolation and then one week with a mask. I now know that some of the people wearing masks have just had the bug. I don’t assume that they are afraid for themselves, I know that I am afraid of them. Health told me that 10 day’s isolation would be safer, but too difficult to enforce. So some of them may still be infectious.
There’s not much COVID about here where I am, and DH and I went to the theatre to see a Comedy show. We didn’t wear masks, the woman in the seat next to me did. We talked, as I apologised for not bringing a mask, and found that she had only just had the bug. She was a bit vague about the dates of her lockdown, and I didn’t know the rules then. Three hours sitting next to her, with everyone laughing and calling out, was about as bad a risk as I could have organised. I came down with it 2 days later, DH 3 days after me. We were a week short of the date for our vaccine second booster shot. DH’s second week rule was up yesterday lunchtime.
Make up your own minds, and certainly don’t assume that anyone wearing a mask is just hyper-anxious. The opposite may be true – they may have decided to risk YOUR health.
I have one daughter who took every precaution. Was ready to get her booster and contracted COVID. My other one is an RN, has people in and out of her house and visa versa. Takes no precautions, has had her shots but no COVID.
There is no rhyme or reason to this virus. They don't know why some contract it and others don't. Do what you think is best for you.
By the way, I keep my "mask and precautions opinions" to myself even when I might prefer others be more careful (except in my home). I just wish others didn't have to be reminded of the consequences we (especially me) have to pay if either of us get sick.
They all have relaxed and those who have gotten it have had mild cases so they don't see a problem. Their comments show they really don't comprehend my 24/7 even in the "good times" and the level of stress it would add. A simple cold can become very serious when he is already high risk for pneumonia. I was totally stressed during hospital lockouts just knowing if he had even a simple fall needing an x-ray I would not be allowed in to advocate. With Parkinson's any upset to the medication (not getting it on time or getting the wrong pain med) can take weeks to get back on even ground.
I do ignore the opinions, but if they did comprehend they would totally support me in my efforts to protect me and my husband from even a "small" risk (in their eyes) of COVID because the responsibility will be on them if something happens to me.
I will continue with precautions (right or wrong) because they lower my stress level. I just would appreciate other's respect and support especially from those close to me rather than negative comments trying to educate me. (Even on this forum).
This past weekend, a dear friend's daughter got married. There were 150 people from all over the US as well as 10 under age 5 unvaccinated kids. Many choose to attend the 1.5 hour long church service indoors, w/o masks AND then go to the full reception including a crowded inside dinner event and inside dancing until 10 pm. I choose to only go to the 1 hour outdoor cocktail part of the reception. I was double-masked AND did not eat or drink anything. I got to see folks I had not seen in 2.5 year and enjoy the celebration the WAY I was comfortable. Most folks were unmasked. NO one verbally said anything about my mask on and not attending the full event decision. AND only a very few I could see in their eyes judgment, but I do NOT CARE. As adults we get to make our own decisions and those who love and understand us, will understand and not judge. Those who do judge, criticize or cajole are the ones with the problem.
You do you want need to do to keep you and yours safe! And do not look back at those judging eyes, comments or actions. If necessary, just say a simple "You have not right to judge me", then turn and walk away from them.
Husband was in the hospital for 20 days and on oxygen at home for 72 days. Mother was in the hospital for 9 days. I was home alone when a storm hit and knocked the power off for 6 days with covid my migraines were so bad that I took my sumatriptan shots twice a day for at least 5 days. We still have long haul covid problems for example my husband doesn't have sensation on one side inside of his mouth also with that food taste bad, he has anxiety attacks with me I can't seem to do things don't have enough energy. My mind says we can but my body says no way.
We don't want it at all. So we will be masked around family we don't live with and anywhere we go outside. We order groceries online and go pickup I may go into Walmart once a month to get things with a coupon that I need or get things that I can't get online thru them. We wear surgical masks they are thicker than the ones that we had before.
I have a BIL with dementia that has had covid but we can't tell him that we just say it was a cold. We wear masks around him so that he doesn't get it again. He wears masks when he can remember. He has other health issues like diabetes, heart problems.
Prayers to all that keep this up hopefully one of these days we won't be wearing these masks. Stay safe all of you.
I do protocol and have since the start and still it got me.
Doesn't matter what the Gen pop think- they aren't stepping in to help you or your family if someone falls ill.
Lots of hugs & SUPPORT from me :)
Still feel it's personnel choice what people chose for their protection, or not.
Me and my wife went to Disneyland a month ago, and we were part of a small group of folks that were wearing face coverings. We asked to be seated on the front of every Rollercoaster and ride, so it created a longer wait time for us but we knew we were safer at the front instead of having all of the screaming folks saliva droplets hitting us in the face. As a result of our precautions, we did not catch COVID after being in a super-packed theme park all day.
Did people look at us like we were aliens, or give us 'the smirk' because they saw us with face coverings? YES, many of them did, but me and my wife didn't care because we are protecting ourselves and an elderly sick mother waiting at our home. The 24-hour caregiver we paid to stay with mom had to wear a face covering around mom, wash her hands for 20-seconds, and wipe down her phone and other touched surfaces with alcohol wipes.
We also use curbside pick-up for groceries (except for picking produce and meats).
So I get it!
Protect your household by requiring face coverings, shoe coverings, hand washings, sanitizing wipes, etc.
Do what you feel is necessary to protect your household!