This is not an open invitation to agree or disagree. I'm just wondering if others still face ongoing criticism of your choices no matter the side you are on.
A person with Parkinson’s (and elderly in general) can be very high risk for pneumonia because their ability to produce a deep cough can be limited. Because of this I continue to be protective of my husband.
Even before COVID we did not go to church when flu risk was high, only took him into stores during the slow hours and used Walmart grocery pickup when they were the only ones offering it. Now I am extremely thankful to have our church by streaming video and have even more pickup or delivery shopping options.
Now that most people have relaxed their personal guard against COVID I have received “encouragement” that I should do the same. I CHOOSE to wear a mask in public groups (even outside), I avoid groups unless necessary, I try to keep my distance when possible, I ask repairmen and caregivers to wear a mask when entering my home, etc.
Is it inconvenient? YES. However, I keep trying to explain that I will be the one to pay the consequences if either one of us get even just a cold. Being a caregiver is hard enough without having a stuffy head, etc. Others can go to bed and sleep it off when they feel bad but not a 24/7 caregiver. He is very little help for me or himself when I have a down day. Should we both get sick at the same time I honestly don’t know how we would fare. Yes, others would offer to help but I’m sure there would be no one able to step in and replace me. The VA gives me 14 hours of caregiver assistance a week. If used at one time, that is not even one 24 hour period.
The experiences we have had with previous hospitalizations tells me that we definitely don’t want to have another. If it is the caregiver who is hospitalized, there is the added stress not knowing who or how their loved one is being cared for back at home.
Yes, I do have faith in God that he is in control and whatever happens He will carry me through. However, I don’t feel it gives me the freedom to throw caution to the wind . For me, following basic COVID protocol is a lot easier to minimize the risks.
Brother is still going to work but wesrs a mask.
SO, too, wears a mask at his new work, which is at an independent living plus AL. He made the decision that he’d have to tell them if he tested positive, despite the fact that he just started. Because it’s an old folks home after all.
But like bil and sil, a lot of people are continuing to go to work, shopping etc. The more conscientious of them wear masks. The mask signifies that the wearer doesn’t want you to be a problem, either by you giving them covid or the other way around. I respect their position by giving them some social distance, not to ostracize them but because i assume they have good reason.
No isolation at all? Wow. Where does he work?
When it comes to persons entering your home it is entirely your business and anyone who comes to your home for any reason should respect your wishes to wear a mask without question. Bear in mind that many currently insist that everyone who enters their home remove their shoes and have every expectation that their wishes will be followed. It is YOUR home and anyone who comes into it should comply with your preference.
For those who try to encourage you to lighten up, let them know the number of people who died in our country made you a believer that you don't want it and more aware of dangers catching flu or pneumonia (which both have ongoing vaccines). Thanks but no thanks. Keep doing what you're doing.
As a person who feels much differently than you do, and most of us who do- feel it’s a personal choice and should always have been. Ironically, our responses are the same- it’s her personal choice to wear a mask or ask those who enter your home to do so. Stop the division, stop lumping people together who don’t agree with you. You’re part of the problem! Live and let live. Stop the judgment.
FIL tested positive yesterday as did Brothers Wife, their day caregiver. MIL is feeling symptomatic and retesting today.
You have a right to ask people to wear a mask in your home and they are rude to object. But in public, do what you want and, if it bothers you, ignore those who argue. A wise person once said " A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still"
I still mask indoors in public places. I do feel like I stick out these days, but nobody has actually said anything to me.
If they did, I figure that I’d tell them that my mom is 88 years old and I don’t want to risk passing something on to her. I’d rather be extra safe than be possibly cause her death.
Its a real thing that family members experience regret when they give COVID to an elderly loved one and then it kills them
I'm sorry you're getting pressure. On top of everything else, adding that must be truly exhausting.
My mom and I wear a mask if requested by businesses and health professionals. We are both fully vaxxed. Surprisingly some doctor appointments I take her to do not require masks and some meet us in what looks like hazmat suits.
She's going on a flight this month (well deserved after going through chemo and radiation for lung cancer) to Maine and I'll make sure we wear a mask in the airports. Other than that, we will take it as it comes a day at a time.
My mom is my best friend and I'm trying my best for her. You simply do your best, don't worry about others and live your life.
I chose certain methods for personnel protection that seem to offend or 'trigger' some people. I chose the freedom to feel safe for my wife and myself and simply ignore negative criticism.
Currently with all the mixed or inaccurate information coming out of the CDC and this government after politicizing their reaction people are really left confused.
I chose certain methods for personnel protection that seem to offend or 'trigger' some people. I chose the freedom to feel safe for my wife and myself and simply ignore negative criticism.
Currently with all the mixed or innacurate information comming out of the CDC and this government after politicizing their reaction people are really left confused.
Prayers for you and yours
Me and my wife went to Disneyland a month ago, and we were part of a small group of folks that were wearing face coverings. We asked to be seated on the front of every Rollercoaster and ride, so it created a longer wait time for us but we knew we were safer at the front instead of having all of the screaming folks saliva droplets hitting us in the face. As a result of our precautions, we did not catch COVID after being in a super-packed theme park all day.
Did people look at us like we were aliens, or give us 'the smirk' because they saw us with face coverings? YES, many of them did, but me and my wife didn't care because we are protecting ourselves and an elderly sick mother waiting at our home. The 24-hour caregiver we paid to stay with mom had to wear a face covering around mom, wash her hands for 20-seconds, and wipe down her phone and other touched surfaces with alcohol wipes.
We also use curbside pick-up for groceries (except for picking produce and meats).
So I get it!
Protect your household by requiring face coverings, shoe coverings, hand washings, sanitizing wipes, etc.
Do what you feel is necessary to protect your household!