Ellen wants to get her way in a nursing home or she cries loudly or yells at the residents and the workers. Any suggestions?

Before she went to her first NH, she lived with her abusive husband who tried to choke her when she went to get something out of their trash that was hers, but he had thrown away in the outside trash can. She had on nothing but a diaper and a thin night gown you could see thru. He blocked the door and would not let her bring her thing back into the house. She tried to push her way inside, but he choked her. Neighbors called the Mobile Home Administrator. She talked him into letting her come inside to put on some clothes and took her to the hospital. The police filed a report against her husband and told her she could not return home. The doctor at the hospital sent her to the Carrollton NH so they could regulate her medication and help her to get some decent meals. She had lost a lot of weight from not eating. She was not taking her medications nor using her oxygen. The doctor at the NH gave her an IQ test and told us her IQ was 70. The NH in Granbury has a special rating for special needs residents and they took her into that group. She qualified for Nursing Home Medicaid after we went to Granbury Care Center. We also got her an ID card since she wrecked her car while living at home. We got her Medicare Rx Plus which pays 100% of her drugs and Medicare Supplement with Gerber Life Insurance Company for Plan F which pays 100% after Medicare pays their part of Plan A & B. When her husband died in March, I had to pay a lot of bills because she would say she told that business,
to cancel that charge card because she did not want it anymore. Her husband was in prison from around 2003-2006. She filed bankruptcy for thousands of dollars while her only Daughter moved in and told her mother to pay all the bills for both of them. I hired an Attorney to help me settle Ellen's estate and another one to help me with all the paperwork to give me the right to take care of Ellen. Ellen's daughter has used Ellen's name with her daughter's address to try to open at open 1 charge card, to buy a car, and to buy a house. I think her daughter has seen her 3 times since Ellen has been in a NH. Ellen has a granddaughter with 3 or 4 great grandchildren. They call her often and send her pictures. She has an older sister in New Mexico that she calls often just to talk about the past. She has a sister 1 year younger than her that can not understand Ellen on the phone, but they exchange letters and cards. James is one year younger than this sister and can not understand Ellen on the phone either. After we closed her estate, she had $2,000 in her bank account. She is allowed to keep $60 each month. Social security puts her check in the bank, and the 2 insurance companies and the NH draft their part. I make sure there is 60 left on each bank statement. I have talked to the NH administrator and he said she can stay until she shows worse signs of being dangerous to herself or to others. I am going to take care of my husband as his full time caregiver and let the NH try to control Ellen's anger with therapy and medication. They have been trying to help her for 2 years this June. Thank you for you reply.

Thank you for your reply. I have told the NH Administrator that I will take care of the paperwork as her POA, but let them be in charge of her anger problems. He told me that the NH has the professional help to decide what medication and therapy she might need. I will continue to attend the Plan Meetings every 3 months when the NH is open for visitors again. I have been eating with her from 11 -1 on the first and third Tuesday, but I was told how much she was lying and making others miserable every time I walked in the door. They will continue to call me every time she hurts herself, has a medicine change, or need my permission to let the dentist work on her teeth, see an eye doctor, or take a therapy test. They will also take her to any appointment the NH doctors make for her.