My grandparent just had an accident for the first time yesterday and didn't even know it. (I'm not sure how you don't know in the first place, but anyway...)
I didn't even know it either I guess 'til we were at the doctor and we had to stop back at my apartment to clean her up & wash her clothes. It was the first time. Should I consider diapers now just in case?
(Also, I've realized this isn't something I can do on a daily basis. I might have to consider a retirement home for her instead of waiting on assisted living.)
It is good you recognize your limitations (we all have them). This is better for your health than waiting until you are exhausted and burnt out. You will still be taking care of your grandmother just in a different manner. Best of luck!
The thing is she doesn't live with me. So, imagine if it happened and THEN I'd have to clean a couch on top of that? I cannot do that.