I asked if she could feed herself, and they said yes. But she was so stiff, I couldn't even get her arm up so she could grab her burger. They told her family she is having trouble swallowing. She is skin and bones. I fed her and she ate at hamburger, tater tots, a yogert, a full banana and a cookie and enjoyed every bite. Are they covering for the fact that she is not being fed, explaining her emaciation. She is not long for this world, and maybe they are helping it along. Is this standard practice? I also tried to readjust her legs, and couldn't even move them. This is disturbing.
I would contact the state and file complaints, I have found that is the only way to get anything fixed. Fear of fines or losing their licensing is the only language that they understand, especially a place that would do what you witnessed. Your friend is being starved to death, how cruel is it that she has food in front of her and can't get it in her mouth. We don't even treat prisoners like that.
If family is not involved with the care the patient will die very slowly.
The woman in admissions said the staff helps when needed. I was at the NH daily. Sometimes it was mealtime. They just dropped food off when they saw me there.
Some people don’t have visitors. Those people do need help. It is sad.
Will you be able to check on her and determine if her weight is stabilizing or increasing?