Im looking for short answers to my question. I probably shouldnt think this way but if it came down to losing a spouse because your a caregiver at home. Thus having to choose between your marriage or your parent(s) which would you choose? ! Just hypethetical and am curious to see your answers! You dont have to say why! Lol
people love you as long as it suits their interests.
My husband died a horrible cancer death
I adored him and we were very happily married for 34 years.
In my living room, in the evening while trying to relax...............I look over at my MIL (alzheimers) glaring at me from her bed... and I wonder how this happened ............that it's her in my living room and not my husband.
He deserved so much better. I miss him in every corner.
I am taking care of his mother because he would've been appalled but also grateful.
That's all I need to know.
If it is a question that caregiving for a parent is destroying my family and my marriage relationship, or at least my ability to be a parent and a spouse, then something should give in the caregiving.
I say, if the relationship is a good and healthy one, I would choose my spouse. If my relationship is rocky and headed for divorce (unhealthy), then it probably would be parents.
He said he had fallen in love many times and was very disappointed. He then summed it up: "I prefer to be a slave to a perfect Master than an impossible dream!"
Unfufilled for 75 percent of the time and 25 percent you seem at peace and somewhat happy. What do u do. Im tired yall.
I hope you can get that peace you need and deserve as well. Life is too short; we too need to enjoy some before our number comes up.
This is a hard question to answer, because each species has its own way about it. Some don't mind the youngsters hanging around, while others run them off. Few, however, will sit around and chat with their kids.