Is it normal as a caregiver to become frustrated or impatient? I ask my Dad not to move certain things, and he tries to tell me he knows better. As soon as I leave, he ends up eventually moving it may it be right away or the next day. I become frustrated and repeat myself to him, and then I get the cold shoulder, or he walks away. Today I asked him not to walk away while I talked to him and mention how you would like it if someone walked away while you spoke to them and that it was rude. He stopped and listen, but now I feel so utterly guilty for visibly showing my frustration and repeating myself. I always end up apologizing, and it seems he plays on my emotions. I always end up feeling guilty.
MOST of us are frustrated and impatient. That's why we vent here. If you need an understanding group of caregivers who are going through what you are going through, then consider joining the Alzheimer's/Dementia Caregiver's Support Group on Facebook. You will find plenty of frustrated and impatient people who will listen and support you.
Absolutely! That's why I'm here right now! I refuse to give in to my father's paranoia that he's being watched by his apartment complex. and he keeps pushing it . he bought a ring camera and what he wants to do with it, wont' work. I'm trying to talk him out of it by saying you can't turn it off and on when you want to use it. you can't take battery out and put it back in. (it will always want to update). He never leaves the house except for MAYBE once a month. I have no desire to enable him. He just told me "But I'd rather you come over". so all my reasons didn't work. now i have to tell him "I'd rather not" in a way that doesn't peeve him off but he'll get mad anyway because most people who want someone to enable them usually do. gggggggggggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr lol
I sanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. You may need to adjust your expectations or remove items for awhile depending on the situation.
Remember, he sees you as his child, not an authority figure. You will have to make things seem as his idea if you want to have the possibility of him changing his behavior.