My husband is 91 with ALZ, and he is pretty much confined to his room. He can come out, but I encourage him not to and bring everything to him. His aide comes in the morning to shower and dress him, and I have hand sanitizer at his door to be used upon entering. Other than her it’s just me and my girlfriend in the house. My gf is a Dr and goes to work each day (she does not go in his room). I’m young and healthy, and I miss seeing my son and the children, but of course I don’t want to put my husband at risk. Of course I would take precautions and once I was back in the house I would shower before going into his room. Perhaps this question is selfish of me to even consider, but the two year old really misses his “Loves” aka grandmother.
How young is young, by the way? I'm delighted to read that you are young and healthy, but I assume you're speaking comparatively?
The point of social distancing is to reduce radically the number of contacts between individuals in a given population and thereby disrupt the virus's spread. The two year old no doubt is in exuberant good health, but that does not mean he is not harbouring the virus. Your son will have been in contact with a further cohort of individuals. Every person you add to your individual list of contacts increases the risk to everybody you come into contact with. And you cannot shower your respiratory tract.
Please don't think I don't sympathise. I am extremely hacked off that Mothering Sunday was postponed indefinitely because I haven't seen my son, DIL, granddaughters and newly married daughter in six months, or my other daughter for eight weeks, and I was sorely tempted to go ahead with our planned get-together. But then I had to ask: is this *essential*? And no. Not essential. Humph.
Your g/f's being a doctor, by the way, is a problem. I would like to assume that she herself is aware of the problem and is taking all precautions; but do stay on top of this situation. Is it possible for her to use a separate bathroom and avoid shared rooms in your house?
We have a news item today about a doctor being evicted from the room he was renting *because* he is a doctor. And of course, like everybody else, my first response was "well really! What a way to treat our NHS heroes!" But on reading the rest of the story, and reflecting for a while, I see that the landlady had a point. She has her own health and her family's to consider, she is not well, she cannot have in the house somebody who is daily coming into contact with many sick people. We are going to have to work out a better way of housing and catering for our hospital staff, that's all.
I hope you get to see your children and grandchildren soon.
Be well.
anyone and most parents don't want
anyone visiting despite the great help they are missing. It's a sad and strange time. For those who rely on faith it can also be very difficult. If one reflects back to other times of crises there was also solace in places of worship and now that is becoming forbidden. I hope for unity because there is not enough energy for divisiveness and it does not allow for the necessary needs we all need moving forward.
Im very blessed, just sad I guess. We had to cancel Bill and Gannon’s birthday party for next weekend, and he was so excited that we were getting him a big boy bike. Bill remembers in occasionally, but only when he comes over.
Praying that we can all stay well, and things go back to normal soon.
Please stay home and remain safe. Keep those in your home safe by social distancing with others.
Why don’t you FaceTime with your family and friends?
Best wishes to you and your family.
Still, our grands (4 under the age of 4), LOVE making and receiving the calls.
I sure do. It’s the hugs and kisses though. Definitely not the same on an iPad.
Even if I did have facebook, it wouldn't help for my mother (memory care at locked down AL/IL/MC facility) as she wouldn't understand it and can't hear much of anything, with or without the hearing aid (did not get her a phone when moved to MC for these reasons.)
I stay in touch through text and hangouts on my phone. I was already pretty much hermit status, due to lack of funds to get anything done or do anything - now that this has resolved somewhat, there's nowhere to go, nothing to do!!! Sigh. Typical.
This generation is blessed to have the technology to see one another. Of course, it isn’t the same but it’s something to be grateful for.
Good for you, Ann for FaceTimeing!
In Freehold a family thought it would be nice to still have their weekly family dinner on Mar 3. These people did not live together. Out of 7 people 4 died. Someone carried the virus.
No, I don't think it is a good idea to visit your grands. Ur Dr. GF could bring the virus home with her. Then u infect the grands. Stay home. This virus will not die out if u don't stay home.
We are up to just about 1800 and 65 deaths in Louisiana. State wide mandatory stay at home order, businesses closed, stores are only open for essentials.
Both my DH and I are currently immunosupressed, so we are taking the usual comments. I have been 'isoalting' for almost a year, due to cancer and chemo. Dh is a liver transplant recipient, so he's immunosupressed for life.
We facetime with the kids in Va and Wa. Not much else to do--we just have to ride this out.
In my state, evictions are being halted by emergency order, so, people cannot be kicked out of their home, since, they need a place to shelter.
And even if we said yes, all three of them would be buried in their iphones, so that isn't worth the risk in our book.... [sigh].
One also needs to take into account that the USA as a country is much bigger than a European country. Several European have mentioned that they can travel within 9 hours by car from one European country to another. They couldn’t believe that they drove that many hours in Texas, and were still in Texas. They did not realize how big Texas was. They mistakenly thought they can cross the US by car ... and were still in Texas...
Therefore comparing Italy to the US is incomparable. Google ‘size of Italy vs USA’. =)
For your sake. For your girlfriend. For your husband and for all the rest of us, please wait this out. It won't be forever.
Covid19 is not even in the same ballpark. Each state and county should make up their regs to handle their facts on the ground. CDC says 50% of risk is taken care of by hand washing. A lot more of the risk is taken care of by common sense. And at least 95% of cases are mild or show no symptoms. You make your own decision depending on the facts in your area. For me, as long as the rest of the family was comfortable, I would go visit and take all the precautions.
Don't know why things are the way they are. Maybe Covid19 has a different marketing guru than swine flu.
Please don’t bother any doctors with questions at this time when the answers are so readily available and our doctors are overwhelmed.
Did you read in the news about the child under 1 who died in Illinois? Many children other places are sick.
Everyone needs to stay home, as we have been asked, or this period of contagion will continue indefinitely.
it’s not just the flu as some people flippantly say.
As we know, for many, this has proven fatal. For those who are survivors, this virus can cause significant, permanent lung damage.
We are told to social distance for a reason. "Missing someone" is not a good enough reason to put may peoples lives in jeopardy especially the doctor who resides in your home.
I suggest you find creative ways to connect with the 2 year old and make this a learning situation for both of you.
One came this morning from The Netherlands with a lot of information. It is so serious over there now, that " if 2 people are not 5 feet away from each other and are not from the same family, police will issue fines of 400 euros".
it is indeed very hard times
right now! Please stay home safe and go out only for essentials. You should not go visit anyone right now and none should visit you! Maybe you can FaceTime or Skype? Otherwise talk to them on the phone.
stay safe! We all need to be extra socially responsable !
Your husband is in this 90's
You are in your 40's
You miss seeing your son and children
Something just does not make sense. You NEED to stay at home. Many different generations you could infect.
This emergency is not about you. It is about protecting all those you love. Be mindful and thoughtful. Take care of others by following the CDC guidelines.
That bike will mean even more later.
The guidelines issued about age over 60, and /or chronic medical conditions, are just that, GUIDELINES. They are not hard and fast rules about who can contract and die from this.
There should be no in-person visiting of anyone for a very long while. Now is not the time to be selfish; it is a time to be selfless and considerate to all humanity.
There is a great video on YouTube by a Dr. Keith Mortman from George Washington University showing a virtual image of the lungs of a health 50-yr. who became infected. This virus causes widespread, diffuse pneumonia of all lobes of both lungs with PERMANENT damage.
Use FaceTime, Skype, Zoom, House party there are so many platforms to use to see your grandchildren nowadays!
I am in NJ ...my 94 yr. old MIL is in Assisted Living ....we haven’t been able to see her in a over a month ....@ her age & w/ the current situation maybe we will never see her again! Your grandchildren r young wait till it’s SAFE!
Stay Home! Amen!
( something about your question, ages, etc. seems off ...as other mentioned ...IF you are trolling this is absolutely the lowest to do it here.
Oh, did I mention stay home!
I appreciate your response, and I’m sorry that my venting something would upset anyone. I thought it to be a better choice to come to this safe place, where I didn’t expect anyone to say GO, and vent and put it out there, than to act on my heart.