Now, due to her stubborness, her skin is breaking down more and she had a red sore on her behind and it looks like a rash is starting to develop. I try like crazy to stay on top of all this, but her stubborness and then uglyness is hindering this. Now her uglyness is escalating as well...hitting my hot buttons for sure. I am taking a "time out" tonight and just putting space between us so I calm down and get persepective and am better able to handle. Any feedback? (Note- mom is 98 yrs. old.....) cadams
Sometimes we do have to step back. I wondered if it would be possible to hire a professional to come in to help with the pressure sore until it is healed. That would take the pressure off you to do so much.
I understand what you mean by stubborn. Some older people become half mule.
I'm not sure why the stubborness seems to be in most every area right now. I think she is just going downhill and it is her way of holding on. I had a good talking to her tonight about her need to cooperate more. We'll see. cadams
Another poster, Xinabess, had a very similar situation a week or so ago. Many elders with dementia have difficulty expressing the fact that they are in pain.
I would call the doctor this AM and describe to him/her or to the NURSE (not the receptionist) what is occurring, This might be ER worthy.
I agree with everyone else though, definitely get that bedsore taken care of. Best of Luck to you.
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