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Let him do it. After a few months of cleaning up rotten food and filthy bathrooms, my nephew was suddenly inspired to attend college. Sometimes youth needs to see the tougher chores, flip a few fries and stand knee deep in muck before they see the value of education.
My mother lives with my brother and his family, including 5 kids, one son. This son has grown up caring for, first, my father who was bed bound and now my mother who is going downhill quickly. I know this kid has helped do things for my mother what society would deem "not right"--but mother is very comfortable with the family and sees nothing wrong with it. My nephew is now 23 and has just finished his EMT training and is looking to nursing school. I'm sure he never felt coerced. He is a very loving, caring man.
I must be the only one feeling a pang of discomfort with the idea. I don't worry about the grandmother as much as the healthy development of the boy. He is very young to be taking on this type of responsibility, especially if it takes up a large part of his time. He needs to be doing the things that typical boys his age do, e.g. school, career building, mate seeking. Serious caregiving is not something I would assign to any 18-year old, male or female.
I'm a 61 year old man and I've had to provide this type care for my Mom on ocassion. We got through it but it was very uncomfortable for both of us. There's certainly no moral issue involved. If the young man is capable and both parties are comfortable there should be no problem although it is an unusual situation.
young (handsome) male aide came to give ma a bath I was somewhat taken aback but soon got used to the concept. The hospital made him cover his arms because he had been a marine and he was covered in tattoos The powers that be though it might frighten the patients. If they had asked me I could have told them not nearly as much as having him come to give an elderly woman a bath. I agree some people might be very uptight with the concept and sentencing this grandson to providing care long term is not fair but not more unfair that than asking a grand daughter of the same age to give up her life.
I think there would be something morally wrong with expecting or demanding an 18-year old to take on this kind of task. If he chooses to do it, I think it's fine, as long as he has the opportunity to exit if he wants to.
My question would be for how long would this grandson be his grandmother's caregiver? Doing the math, grandmother could be as young as in her mid 50's. Would he be helping her for the next 20+ years? If so, that would be so very unfair to him.
Is this grandson being paid? I would hate to see him in his late 20's without a dime to his name because he wasn't employed getting a salary and numerous benefits.
There's a story here. If you give us more details about the situation, you'll get better responses. It matters if the parties are comfortable with the situation.
Oh, dear. It sounds like someone needs to provide the young man with some guidance. He sounds like a failure the launch case in the making. Since she is 80 years old, I wonder what will happen to him when she is gone. I guess a situation like this has to be taken one day at a time.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I agree some people might be very uptight with the concept and sentencing this grandson to providing care long term is not fair but not more unfair that than asking a grand daughter of the same age to give up her life.
I see no issue, in fact it makes me smile.
Angel
Is this grandson being paid? I would hate to see him in his late 20's without a dime to his name because he wasn't employed getting a salary and numerous benefits.
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