I'm getting tired of having to stay home taking care of everything here while husband goes out of state to help his elderly mother. Flights are costly so one stays behind while the other goes. We take turns, but I usually only stay 10 days, that's all I can take with all the work there, and having to return home to stuff also. It's not good for our marriage either. Does any of you have the same situation?
You can make changes now, you don't want to, big difference. Obviously, your husband rules the roost and you follow his lead.
That is your choice and I wish you the best!
After a (insert long story) needs +++, my stress +++, professional & informal advice, then 💡 in short, I quit.
I thought my enabling may cause a floor to collapse. Didn't - but, the other enablers had to find replacement services. They did & more Non-Family help was employed. While resisted at first, now fully welcomed & much appreciated.
The Doll's House gained MORE support (without frying up family). Success!
Folk can think "oh they are ok, do most everything themself, just need a little help". Yet if it was YOU Dixie that ran the household, did the chores & errands & kept it clean, you have a magic dolls house situation too.
Let your Husband go to play House alone with his Mother.
The Hawaiian culture praises seniors as Wise Elders. Why she will never leave.
If your husband doesn't have the backbone to embrace your needs there is a marriage problem here.
This is all crazy, it is no longer about what she wants, it is about what she and your family need.
Stop going, let hubby take care of her, not your responsibility.
Believe it or not, you have rights, although you seem unwilling to stand up for yourself.