I'm getting tired of having to stay home taking care of everything here while husband goes out of state to help his elderly mother. Flights are costly so one stays behind while the other goes. We take turns, but I usually only stay 10 days, that's all I can take with all the work there, and having to return home to stuff also. It's not good for our marriage either. Does any of you have the same situation?
Would she consider moving more near you?
If not, then I cannot see an option other than placement, can you?
Might be time to tell him that you will not be doing this anymore and if she needs that much care, she needs to be in AL.
He is taking advantage of you, it is up to you to stop it.
My mother is 98, this could go on for a very long time and your marriage will continue to suffer, if it lasts.
Stand up and be counted.
Of course she don't drive, but allows us to drive her car when we come, so that we can run errands, and etc. I also think she may live to 100 or more, ppl in warm climates live longer. I will start backing off a little more than I've been doing, and let her son go more often, with me coming for a few days during his time there, so that will help me mentally too. We have 4 feral cats who depend on us to feed them, and a big house, yard and bills that we have to take care of too, so that's why we can't go each time as a couple. We recently started paying a person to feed the cats twice daily when we do go for short getaways, in btwn going to moms. Life will change in the future, the question is, when with it change?
MIL needs to go into AL.
This is an unsustainable situation, for everyone involved.
Does your husband not understand that?
Have you considered saying "I can't do this anymore?"