My dad is being denied his basic right. She won’t allow him to watch tv, play on his phone or let him have any privacy with his children. I was allowed to see him without restrictions. My sister hasn’t been allowed to see our dad in over 3 months. I began advocating for her with our stepmom and this has made her very mad that I was trying to get her to let my sister to visit. I asked my dad quietly when I visited him last weekend and I asked him if he wanted to see his daughter and he said he really wanted to see her and he said yes but said we would have make a plan to get around his wife. Today we were sent texts laying out the rules to visit and the consequences if we did not abide them. The rules are absurd. She also we were not allowed to talk to him unless she was present. We just want to spend some time with our dying dad. What can we do? Would a lawyer be able to help?
Is she afraid that you all are going v to try to get him to change his will or POA?
Is he buying stuff he sees on TV?
Are you privy to the Hospice arrangements? Perhaps a chat with the Social Worker is in order.
The Hospice Social Worker and Chaplain might be of help.
If from dad it may not be reliable information.
Contacting the hospice social worker would be helpful, I would think. Perhaps they can remind the wife that this is what is best for him and it is not about her.
Legal? It is not illegal, but there could possibly be some things occurring behind closed doors that are illegal. You could certainly consult with an attorney and ask if they would issue her a cease and desist letter. I have no idea if this would fly or not. Definitely try the social worker approach first.
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