We have no family left and few friends. Most have their own physical problems. DH 's doctor does not Co anything but manage him with meds. I have spent much of my life being a caregiver to other people but always had DH to help me. Now I m totally alone and worse yet, I have my own medical problems and also had clinical depression BEFORE DH's dx. Now it is of course worse. I see a psychologist twice a month. She is my only outreach, my anchor. I am afraid and physically and mentally tired. You all are my last hope. There are no groups in my area that I can reach out to. Help!
I am in the same boat as you. My wife has ALZ and I am the sole caregiver. Recently, I found Hospice is not just for an end of life situation. They also provide help for inhome care of the patient (paid for by medicare).
We now have an aide coming three days a week for my wife's bathing and general hygiene. A nurse comes twice a week to check her physically. Hospice also provides necessary supplies and equipment needed by the patient.
1. Though the paid caregiver only worked three five-hour shifts per week, she saved my life, so to speak. You, too, must have a volunteer or paid caregiver. At first we think we can do it all, but we can't. And no, you are not the exception! You must do whatever is necessary to have some breaks from caregiving.
2. Faith: I have no doubt that God gave me strength and wisdom that I did not have on my own. As the song says, "You raise me up to more than I can be." That goes for caregiving I am sure. But the same God who gives you grace and strength also gave you a brain and He expects you to realize you have limits.
Continue with your counselor, go to church when you can, and find a volunteer or paid caregiver. If you can afford a counselor, you can afford a paid caregiver. Do not give up. God knows you and the load you are carrying.
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