My mom lives with me as I am her caregiver (double amputee/dementia) My dog (Sam) that I loved for 15 years died one month ago. My mom was very attached to Sam and his death seems to have accelerated her dementia. Is this possible or maybe a temporary thing?
If she is getting aggressive, might talk to doc about something to calm her down a bit.
Was she evaluated for depression? Maybe due to the loss of your beloved doggie she could be depressed from that and could benefit from something to help with that.
You must have your hands full with a double amputee! Make are you are taking care of yourself too. Get some helpers, etc. Your health and well being are important too!
indeed, my husband does not know who I am, after 65 years of marriage, but says "Hello, puppy" when we visit. Just to allay your oh-ohs, it does not bother me at all. 'Tis what it is. And he's content.
Have her dr give her a rather good evaluation. She may need
As she falls deeper into the rabbit hole, you will need to learn to accommodate her "reality" which has no relation to "our" reality. You will need to learn to visit her reality. Don't argue, reason or explain to her why she can't go home - come up with vague answers and direct her attention elsewhere if you can.. Give answers that calm and sooth her agitations. My dad was convinced that he owed people money and wouldn't stop talking about it until I told him that I had paid these fictitious debts.
In the meantime, while looking into long-term options, hire aides to come in and assist with mom, be a companion and visit with her.
Best wishes to you and your mom.
People can experience personality changes because of dementia. They may no longer have the emotional self control that they had when they were healthy. Her aggression may be telling you that she can't process what's happening to her. Even though she's with you, she may feel insecure or frightened. Her behavior is not a reflection of your relationship, try not to take it personally. Do not react in kind to her anger, step away. A response could be, “I'm sorry you're so angry mom, is there something I can do?”. Are there things that might soothe her behavior? A chocolate chip cookie or an ice cream cone often worked for my wife. Could you purchase her a stuffed dog? Some are even animated. Realize your mom has changed. Her anger may eventually wear off, but another challenge for you will replace it. The book Surviving Alzheimer's may help. It offers practical tips for caregivers.
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