My father is a recent widow (4 months) and is involved with a 30 year old woman. He is 81. We do not have evidence of financial abuse by this woman, but believe it is only a matter of time. We found records that she previously sought a conservatorship over another elderly man, but he died before the court ruled. What can we do if anything without having any evidence against this woman?
If you believe he is being duped or scammed, you can speak up to the both of them with loving concern for his well-being. That warns her that you're watching and reassures him that you care--hopefully about him and not just your potential inheritance.
I could go on and on with questions but the reality is you need to see YOUR attorney as mentioned by Pam.....or a different attorney one from Dad's.Look for an attorney who is Elder law etc. And when you do take a list of your questions...be brief on the trivial details and get right to the point.
Be open with him about your suspicions. Maybe he has seen it in her, too, and is already prepared for her to try something.
If he is not willing to discuss your concern at all, then bring it up to her in his presence. Let her know that you're concerned and that you're watching. If she is just a gold-digger, she may move on to easier pickings.
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