My father is a recent widow (4 months) and is involved with a 30 year old woman. He is 81. We do not have evidence of financial abuse by this woman, but believe it is only a matter of time. We found records that she previously sought a conservatorship over another elderly man, but he died before the court ruled. What can we do if anything without having any evidence against this woman?
doing. Looking out for those we care about doesn't mean taking over their life; it should be offers to help and loving advice, as I recommended previously.
There's so many posts on here and replies that many people feel like everything warrants a lawyer, POA, police, etc. it's bizarre. If your dad is spry, working etc and wants to buy his new gf (who if he met through work means that she works) a diamond ring, help her out or go on a cruise, I don't get why so many people feel that's a bad decision but if your 40 year old BF did the same for you, it's ok. Lots of guys like to spend money on ladies they like, many ladies like nice things. As long as he's not getting a second mortgage or maxing out cc, I think you should relax. I can't understand why you even consulted a lawyer.
Be open with him about your suspicions. Maybe he has seen it in her, too, and is already prepared for her to try something.
If he is not willing to discuss your concern at all, then bring it up to her in his presence. Let her know that you're concerned and that you're watching. If she is just a gold-digger, she may move on to easier pickings.
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Of course we should protect our loved ones from abuse of any sort, but the law doesn't always make it easy for us.
If you believe he is being duped or scammed, you can speak up to the both of them with loving concern for his well-being. That warns her that you're watching and reassures him that you care--hopefully about him and not just your potential inheritance.
I could go on and on with questions but the reality is you need to see YOUR attorney as mentioned by Pam.....or a different attorney one from Dad's.Look for an attorney who is Elder law etc. And when you do take a list of your questions...be brief on the trivial details and get right to the point.