My mother and I go to church every Sunday, then out to eat. She has dementia and mobility problems (rollator at about 1 mile a day :). In the restaurant she talks about the same things and often says bad things about people. It's the same each week. I hold my tongue, because Sunday is her day.
When we get home, the same thing happens each week. I hit the bed and sleep away the rest of the day. No, I shouldn't be that tired. I also noticed I get very sleepy after doing anything with my mother during the day, such as going to the doctor and out to eat. The only thing I can figure is that it is so stressful holding myself and my tongue back that I have to reset my body and mind.
Does this happen to anyone else? I'd like to say it's a power nap, but these naps last around 3 hours. Yikes.
i can take a hint..
I would have to say.... that yes it is the stress? Also it has become a habit for you and your body knows it's your nap day and you sleep really well ? :)
Like you, I get tired when doing things with my mom. Simply because she complains the entire time and it sucks me dry ( like your sponge theory)...at times I wonder why I still bother to make her do things.
How can you get away napping hours? :My mom barely sleeps at night much less me being able to nap during the day. By 6 every morning she's at my door asking if I am awake. This goes on for an hour or so...
I didn't just take a nap when I got home. I passed out. She was off her chain.
So many similarities with dementia. I pray to God I don't start harping on how people look or what they or anything for that matter. Not sure about your mom Jesse but mine never said things like she does now. It's rather embarrassing at times.... I kind of do a "wink wink" so people understand.
It appears they are always on their best behavior when around other people....the caregiver gets the brunt of the anger/bad behavior. Duck / water/ stick / stones/ it just makes you tired.
My only friends are in FL. They honestly do their best to understand...even they now are starting to dwindle with me and keeping in touch.
Click click click.... I want to go home
You can do this Jessee....bless YOU for doing it
I refuse to take my out to eat. My sister comes on Sunday and will take Mom out after Mass, but not me! I spend 24\7 with her and if I get a chance to eat out I want it to be relaxing... I'll get take out for Mom but after the last time we were out and she embarrassed me with remarks about the "fat" lady, I said never again...She doesn't appreciate it anyway so why bother.?
See All Answers