I am 69 years old and am seeing the need for help of some sort, but live too far from family. My husband is with me, but he has cancer, heart problems, and possibly dementia. We have no one to look out for us. I recently became incapacitated because of arthritis in my ankle and back. Hopefully, this will get better, but in the meantime, who takes care of us?
If your family knows about your situation and cannot help, perhaps you should make some calls to find out what services are available in your area. Most cities have senior services information, and they can steer you in the right direction. You could also look into independent or assisted living. You certainly have your plate full! Independent living might not be a good fit, given both your health limitations. Assisted living is NOT a nursing home, you know. It is very similar to an independent apartment, but you have the benefit of meals, assistance with bathing, medications, etc. and that sounds like it could be good for your husband....
I am so sorry for what you're going through. My own mother passed away at 59, over 15 years ago. My elderly mother-in-law's needs are getting increasingly more complicated, so we are looking into assisted living for her in the near future. Change is hard, but please do reach out and find out what is available. If not family, then the change in housing may be in order. Another option is home health care. Depends upon your budget, of course, but there are people who can come in and help on a daily basis.
I wish you the best as you navigate your path on this journey....Blessings.
Sell it or look into a reverse mortgage. You might be able to add $2000 a month to your income flow. That can go a long way. $400 towards a house keeper. Get groceries delivered. Have a LVN come two days a week to get everyone a good bath and all the laundry done. Once you have run through the money in your mortgage the government will help.
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