Recently lost a Sister or Brother. This is the 2nd Mother's Day since my Sis passed, suddenly. I was somewhat prepared for things like her Birthday, Christmas to kind of "sting". All day today, (other than feeling like I was a miserable sub alone, ...Sissy was more girly than I), and worrying about how Mamma would feel, I felt "blue" myself. Mostly for the loss of 1/2 my team, the bigger kid that helped me cover things. Anyone else?
Luckily after we took her out to eat with our daughter and grandson on Mother's Day, she seemed to know who we were and was pretty lucid. We had a very special time and I cherish those special moments! Then yesterday which was the day after Mother's Day she was back to not knowing who I am. She woke up asking for a ride home to her Mom and Dad's and I was a complete stranger to her again. It is so disheartening! I think it would be better at this point just to let her go. It must be hard for her to wake up and not know where she is or who she is living with. It is hard on me too as I hate playing these little cherades having to act like I'm just another caregiver. I've had her yell at me, "No, you are not my daughter!" and "I don't love you anymore!" I know she doesn't mean it, that she doesn't know what she's doing anymore but it is very hurtful. She is not totally gone to me as there are moments of clarity, but I am a stranger to her! I miss our Mother-Daughter relationship so much! That's why Mother's Day can be so difficult. I am just thankful that we had our special moment there on Mother's Day even if it was only for a brief while, and I will hang on to that!
whats worse is she laid on the couch dead with her apartment door cracked open for almost 2 weeks. She never was able to get over moms death. I do believe she is with our mom now and her pain is gone. we were estranged but i was always hoping she would overcome her alcoholism , and realize I was always here for her.
Yes, this mothers day was the the most depressing day i have ever had to live thru.
my husband is gone in a memory Care home, my little sister is dead, my Mother is gone. I cried most of the day. It sooooo sucks to be alone. And i miss my mother
every single day (((( and im angry that my sister abandoned life too.
I can imagine it would be so hard for you to lose the other half of your "team." Can you reach out to friends, other family members and let them know that you are in need? It is so important for us caregivers to care for ourselves, and to avoid getting isolated with our responsibilities.
To those who have lost a child, or your parent has alz and seems to not be there, my heart ache's for you. I can't even imagine. But i know that i would do it over again taking care of my Mom. I wasn't perfect and i think i dwell too much on that, but i did the best i could with what i knew and learned from this website and from Hospice.
Happy Belated Mother's Day Everyone.
Eek. I probably should stick with the short answer, which is "yes."
Kixxy - hugs, and blessings, you sure have had it rough!!