As caregivers/helpers, we’re already dealing with un-ending stress. Add to that people we bump into who get on our nerves:
What kind of people get on your nerves?
It can help to let it out. For me, it’s rude people. And people who do things behind your back.
My husband and I are on vacation visiting our two sons and daughter-in-law. DIL just started a new job last week doing in-home speech therapy for early childhood patients.
Someone in one of those homes just couldn't be bothered to cancel their appointment because someone was sick, and DIL was down with Covid within 36 hours.
I'm now the only one left standing. Four people in this house have it, and I'm cooking, cleaning, walking the dog, picking up prescriptions and groceries, and I don't want to catch it. I know I will, too.
Ironically, two weeks ago my DIL left a hospital job she had throughout Covid doing post-stroke speech therapy for patients with Covid. She never caught it there.
Well said. The ones we feel like saying, Give me a break.
It's good to know where people stand.
Hmm.. let me think...probably about 98% I've met.. I agree with others too about genuine people and not pretentious people.
I think there's group of certain usernames that sound really genuine on this forum for instance.
It's hard to meet a true friend for example; someone that will not bail on you the moment things get tough, someone you can depend on and will not judge you. I knew someone like this once. No longer on this planet, but still missed.
I believe there are, friends, and there are, true friend in this world, by the time you're taking tally of remaining friend in your life, the true one's for a lot of people will be 10 fingers minus 9 fingers, and some never have a true friend.
I guess if people have partners, their other half is supposed to be their true friend.
In desperate situations—survival situations—you'll soon see who your true friends are. So it's people who pretend to be good friends but end up being superficial when you need them most.
;)
Like for me this morning when I responded to Ricardo who asked about who speaks for the demented, and in my response was the line something about letting me be the first to say SHAME ON YOU for implying that most caregivers on here only care about themselves. I'm paraphrasing as I've been gone since this morning and don't recall exactly my wording but it's close and since it's been deleted I can't go back and check it, plus apparently that question has now been closed for further comment.
And I know that some have had their responses deleted in the past as well. It would be nice if AC would let us know that they're deleting something we wrote and why wouldn't it?
So today(and other days as well)the folks overseeing this website get on my nerves.
(((Hug)))
You know, AC could add on a comment that they’ve changed:
(Edited by AC)
That must be very upsetting to overhear. :(
It's like living in the same house with a person and knowing what they're like, but to general people and people that only see the person for short periods and have never lived with them, they will think on the surface that the person is great; they're kind, generous, and so on, but only after living with someone do you know their true nature. Not sure if anyone else agrees?
I love people but I also enjoy solitude. Too much togetherness isn’t good for anyone.
Take time for yourself, to be completely alone.
Read a book that you have been wanting to read. Go for a walk. Listen to your favorite music! Soak in the tub. In other words, do something just for you that you enjoy.
People who seem to want to argue and disagree…..as if it’s a sport.
People who suffer with physical and/or mental illness, but refuse to accept treatment. They have no qualms with making those around them as miserable as they are.
What is your favorite way of shutting up a rude person?
Thinking up a super cool and clever insult 6 years later in the shower.
People who talk down to you or at you. Or talk over you by raising their voice to silence you.
People who lack any self-awareness, basic moral compass, smidgen of compassion/empathy.
Too many to list!
The question reminded me of this Seinfeld bit
(437) Seinfeld - People are the Worst.avi - YouTube
But these people don’t really “get on my nerves”, as I just won’t fool with ‘em.
I use to stop talking when interrupted, but recently I've started to practice, with great calm, and masterly steadfast strength, to finish my sentence and even add things either pertinent to the subject, or I'd even take a hard left turn, in the same unmodulating tone, add something like - "I don't care if you're being rude I will still continue to talk because interrupting is not right…" going on and on until they shut the heck up.
The best thing is to see their reaction. They're completely stunned, and I'm still calm, and dang well smiling like a blinking Mona Lisa. It's an amazing thing to do.
I have to be very tired, on my last nerve, or fed-up to bother to behave like this. But when I do I know it sounds crazy, and tough.
I don't care what they think. That type of person may never again have the pleasure of conversing with me. Raspberries.
Does this work for you? Or do they keep talking too and both of you are speaking at the same time?
Following on from @Ventings people that ignore you. People you know and you see in public: they've seen you, but either turn there head away or look down, or wait for you to approach them.
Noooo :).
I still have a big list. We’re at 0.98%.