As caregivers/helpers, we’re already dealing with un-ending stress. Add to that people we bump into who get on our nerves:
What kind of people get on your nerves?
It can help to let it out. For me, it’s rude people. And people who do things behind your back.
Hope you all had a nice Xmas! I did!
People who get on my nerves…Yup, they’re out there. I’ll add to my list: negative people, constant complainers and criticizers.
I thought during my absence we would have seen the people that get on your nerves to reach 99% by now :) Where are you venting?
We have never asked for anyone to lie, but we have asked them to direct mil back to her son.
It's kind of like stay in your lane, know your place.
I don’t place blame on victims but when a person refuses to get therapy it’s a problem. People have to have a desire to help themselves out of bad situations.
Hahaha, I have a sign hanging in my kitchen that says, ‘No Whining!’ I hung it up specifically for certain people to read! LOL 😆
(Yes, I can be a "mean girl". )
And I am not here speaking about this particular question, because this question INVITES our whining and I myself AM whining (about whining).
But I'm speaking "in general".
I know that people need to blow steam out a vent when they are overwhelmed occasionally with the vagaries of life, and the expectations of others.
I'm not speaking here of people who have been hurt and are having a difficult time understanding and moving on.
We all get smacked up the side of the face by life, and we all need to say it smarts. We all need someone to say they are sorry it hurts.
BUT.....................
I AM speaking of people who make it their life's profession to ACCEPT abuse, and as some small recompence seem determined to whine constantly, and who expect others to give sympathy.
I AM speaking of people who martyr themselves to abusers long-term, and expect others to think that makes them a "good" person.
On a personal level I understand how difficult and costly it can be to get good help. But often, even with good help, a person will refuse to give up habitual ways of reacting, will refuse to move forward. As soon as counseling gets "uncomfortable" (and good counseling always WILL get uncomfortable), they walk away, feeling (as always) misunderstood.
I fully understand I may seem to be without sympathy, and I do own that I have been very lucky in my life, starting with great parents and a strong foundation. I cannot even imagine a life without it (and there's perhaps my problem).
But I HAVE seen hard times (the usual: heartbreaking marriage breakup, bad choices, cancer, losses of loved ones, this and that). And three times in my life I have had to seek help, have had --at times--to face MY OWN PART in it, have had to learn, have had to break bad habits and move forward.
So sometimes the whiners just make me want to shake them up as hard as a few psychologists shook me. (If your psychologist doesn't shake you up you are paying for nothing at all).
I'm willing to accept I may not be the nicest person in the world, and here I may have given proof to that. But that foundation I spoke of has made me more or less immune to the opinions of others, hee hee. So, yeah. On some days it's the "whiners" who get on my nerves. Just a bit.
She's the only person I've ever known where we could just sit and not even talk and it was just fine. No pressure ever to talk or be anything but who we were.
Love you Mom!
Start a post on people who are uplifting and inspire us! Do you think that it would get as much attention as this post? 😆
And there’s this one wolf who’s always borrowing my skirt.
One time I cooked my husband’s grandmother’s recipe twice. I followed her recipe exactly!
I asked my MIL why my dish wasn’t turning out right. The first thing she said was, “Oh my gosh, you didn’t ask my mom for a recipe, did you? She will purposefully leave out ingredients so it won’t be as good as hers.”